You know, sometimes I wish real life was more like Facebook. Not in the “I wish there were more pictures of the whole family dressed in white sitting on the beach” or “it’s fun to pretend I have a farm” kind of way, either. What I mean is that you can deal with people on there in ways that would be SO nice to be able to do in real everyday life at times.
1.) You can put them on “limited profile”. Which works for most people in my experience and it’s only if they are really TRYING to push your buttons that further steps are required.
2.) But for those times when that doesn’t work and they are STILL being an asshat, you can just push “ignore” so you don’t have to see their updates on your newsfeed. Ooooo, just IMAGINE for a minute if you could really do this. It would be so awesome that right in the middle of some extreme right wing rhetoric spouting you could just push “IGNORE” and the person would no longer show up!! That was just an example. Down Republican extremists, down ;)
3.) You can “delete” them if they still continue to annoy you. But beware of this option as I said above because if this person is truly just being mean spirited and out for blood, they will realize you “deleted” them when they can no longer publicly humiliate you on YOUR OWN FACEBOOK PAGE and POSTS! They will then send you a “message”… so if this step is necessary I DO suggest the next step as well.
4.) “BLOCK” them, which it seems is the ultimate of FB insults. Because now the troll has to take the time to harass you OUTSIDE of Facebook! What a hassle you have just created for them. Shame on you!
Now remember – Facebook isn’t real life. So as soon as you DO block someone you sure as hell better have blocked them from your email & phone too if you really don’t want to hear from them anymore. Because in my experience, once you “BLOCK” them you better believe you’re going to hear from someone who hasn’t talked to you outside of Facebook in AGES by text or email.
If they have the guts to CALL you and not just continue to hide behind their computer screen, I suggest you do answer their call if you have any hope for reconciliation. Maybe they actually want to clear the air without typing involved. And if they take the time to CALL, they DO care. Regardless of if they want to admit they do or not.
People are SO weird. So, so, so very strange indeed. So do what you’ve gotta do to keep the “haters” out of your life while still remembering that it’s much easier said than done to “ignore”, “limit”, “delete”, or “block” someone. Much, much easier said than done. Take it from me.
But if someone is really and truly harassing you and overstepping, there’s absolutely NO reason to put up with it. “Bullying” can happen at any age unfortunately as I’ve come to realize, and it can happen when no provocation has happened. I wish people “grew out” of being jerks, but once a jerk always a jerk. Just ask my ex-boyfriends’ wives. Hahaha!
So I wanted to explain what Hope Between The Dreams means to me personally since I have chosen it for my new blog’s name…
Firstly, it is a line from the Jack Johnson song “All At Once” :
“There’s a world we’ve never seen
There’s still hope between the dreams
The weight of it all
Could blow away with a breeze
If you’re waiting on the wind
Don’t forget to breathe
Cause as the darkness gets deeper
We’ll be sinkin as we reach for love.”
Not only am I a HUGE Jack Johnson fan, I am now also a lifetime member of his organization All At Once whose motto is “An Individual action, multiplied by millions, creates global change.” Not only have I gotten to volunteer at two life-changing concerts and meet him in person before both said concerts, more importantly I got to become a member of this amazing cause. How many musicians do you know who donate their ENTIRE tour profits to charity? It’s simply unheard of, so let me say it again. 100% of his To The Sea tour profits were donated to charity!
Jack believes in everything good and true that makes this world a better place. He values people and our environment more than fancy cars, hotels, private jets and the things regular celebrities do. Honestly, I wouldn’t even consider him a celebrity, just because he is SO not even close to part of that crowd and is the opposite of everything that word encompasses. Instead, he joins his fans in cleaning up coastlines all across the world while on tour. He sponsors music lessons for underprivileged children. He uses all bio-diesel on his tour buses and supports local farmers and the Farm to Table movement.
The Village Green is AAO‘s pet project and different local non-profits set up booths under the brightly colored tents to both bring in new volunteers and to help raise funds for the groups too. Jack matches every dollar donated to the non-profits and before the gates open he takes the time out to walk around to every single booth and check them out and meet the dedicated volunteers who run them. So yes, he’s just GOOD PEOPLE :) And everything he stands for aligns with my own beliefs. I honestly wish he’d run for President, that’s how much I believe in this man <3 He also takes the time to shake hands with and meet every single All At Once volunteer at every single show once the Village Green is all set up and he gets a picture taken with us too. And in 2010, he actually remembered me from volunteering at his 2008 tour. I was on cloud nine!
But beside the root of my blog’s name and working with All At Once, Jack’s songs have brought so much joy and peace into my life for over a decade now and my life is ever so much more rich for every single one of those songs. The line “hope between the dreams” stuck with me over the years though. So much so that I have slowly but surely kind of adopted it, so to speak. My Facebook carries that name, as does my YouTube account and Twitter account too. They were all opened over the past few years without any solid sort of plan for bringing it all together some day, but that was the general idea. I just wasn’t sure how I’d do that.
But now I have found you, WordPress and you’ve helped me streamline my Hope Between The Dreams <3
PS – And just so as I am clear, I am NOT just some JJ groupie. Well, okay – maybe I am – but not in the traditional way. We are both happily married to very cool people we love very much. I just respect Jack and am thankful for the joy and unforgettable experiences he’s brought into my life is all <3
I have this crystal-clear memory of picking out my first Hello Kitty diary when I was five years old. I still have it in my possession twenty-nine years later crazily enough. I remember how angry it made me when my older brother would pick the lock and make fun of me for the “secrets” I’d written inside. But who were we kidding anyway? Those flimsy locks couldn’t keep a toddler out.
So I guess you can say I developed a strong sense of privacy and importance about my written words from a very young age. I continued to keep journals my entire life (and will put some hilarious excerpts in here from time to time for sh*ts & giggles – as well as share some of the things I’m most proud of having written).
In November of 2003 I stormed the world of LiveJournal with my first online blog. A few years ago now I was diagnosed with Lupus, and I started a new journal on Blogspot just so that I’d have a separate place for writing about what I was going through. For some reason I felt a deep-seated need to compartmentalize my health problems from the rest of my life and other thoughts and ideas. Which anyone with a chronic illness knows (or will soon enough learn) is really an impossible feat and takes way too much energy you already don’t have. But honestly neither blog has been used much for years now, which in turn brought me here to you. Sporadic posts here and there just aren’t cutting it!
So I think I need a whole new crowd. I will welcome many of my old pals with open arms, but I need a new place to call my own. One with no expectations of who or what I used to be… one without thousands of entries that are my past weighing me down.
For now, I’m going to try the anonymous/open blog thing on for size again and see how it goes. I’ve got a lot on my mind and Facebook just doesn’t seem the appropriate forum if you know what I mean. And I know that you DO know what I mean ;)
So welcome to my world. Open minds only, please. It’s my one and only rule!
***Oh, and please play nicely while you talk amongst yourselves. Discussion and debate are more than encouraged and are some of my favorite things as you will learn, but we can all do it in a polite and respectful way. Can’t we?***